Mother was something else. She was beautiful, athletic, artistic, controversial, emotional, profane, irreverent, unforgettable and wonderfully quotable.
She died at 69. Too many cigarettes. Too much booze. She was eaten up with cancer. Refused surgery or radiation. She's seen and done enough. Was ready to go.
I've never known anyone faintly like her. There was a lot I didn't like about her. But there was a lot more that I did. She could be thoughtful to the extreme. She could be thoughtless. She could show limitless patience. She could fly off the handle much too quickly.
Mother had nothing for formal religion. But she blubbered uncontrollably when Christmas carols started playing. She attended our eldest son's baptism. Wore dark glasses so no one could see her weeping.
She was a softie at heart. A little bit of mom found its way into my emotional and physical d.n.a. I look back at my years with mom with relish and satisfaction. She was special. She was a hell-raiser with the best of them.A kindred spirit.
She loved her grandchildren and struck fear into their hearts. Intimidation was the first rule of co-existing with grandchildren. I'll drink to that! She also knit countless sweaters and other goodies for them. They still have the little things! Treasures from great, loving hands.
I loved and love my mother. I wish I had shown it more. We were too busy having occasional clashes of antlers and showing each other our tougher than thou sides. She was a better mother than I was a son.
But all things work out in the end. I treasure her memory. When I get together with my sisters we inevitably share stories about this wonderful character we were privileged to call our mom. We always, to quote her, "Laugh, I thought I'd die. Thought my pants would never dry."
What a woman. Damn, I'm proud.